What Makes Them Really Tick Series- Your Partner and You are Like Two Instruments
If you’re in harmony, if you resonate with each other’s emotional frequency, your relationship will be waltzing to a beautiful symphony. You’ll be close, your conversation will flow naturally from one note to the next and you’ll move through your relationship with grace, ease and a deep sense of connection.
But if you don’t tune into each other’s emotional resonance frequency, discord will erupt, the beautiful music of your relationship will fall apart. You could end up on a battleground where both of you are fighting, constantly at each other’s throats. Or even worse you could end up alone. Or worst of all, by far, your partner may even end up cheating on you or you find yourself vulnerable to an affair. And all of that can be avoided if you simply learn to tune into each other and harmonize together.
But here’s the thing, most people don’t do this. Most people guess at their partner’s emotional resonance frequency and they think they’re doing well they think they understand their partner, but often they don’t. And by that time, they figure out it’s often too late. Connecting with your partner’s emotional resonance frequency is THE most important thing for the long-term success of your relationship. However, most people absolutely miss it because they don’t know how to tune in. They make assumptions about their partner and when they get that weird look that says “You don’t understand me…” they don’t know what to do.
If you want to pull your partner closer, if you want to melt your partner’s heart, you have to understand their core emotional needs. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen couples come to me in my office who’ve been together for years and never figured this out… but when I show them how to discover what’s most important to their spouse, their relationship transforms almost overnight. This isn’t magic, but it acts like magic because focusing on your partner’s most important core needs makes them feel important, special and cared for. As Dale Carnegie once said… one of the single most effective ways to influence someone is to make them feel important.
Your partner’s needs may be quite different from yours, and if you are expecting any tension in your relationship this may be the cause. After this series of What Makes Them Really Tick and after we’ve blown the lid off and seen what’s buried inside each of us that drives us at a deep emotional level, you will come away with a whole new appreciation for your partner’s needs, as well as your own. You’ll be able to tune in to your partner’s emotional resonance frequency, which is one of the most powerful steps you can take to keep your partner close and create that match made in heaven all of us dream about.
So… What’s Driving Your Partner?
Do you know what it is your partner really needs? What makes them feel happy and secure with you? Do you know what you can do to make them fall madly in love with you and never consider straying?
I want you to think about this for a week and write down your answers. If you do not have anything by you to write this down or take notes of keep a tally in your head. Come up with at least 3 values or emotional needs that drive your partner. Make sure you have your answers and the 3 values or emotional needs that drive your partner before the next blog.
Next blog we will get some of the basics out of the way and to do that we will start with the Survive versus Thrive. Stay tuned so you can figure out what drives your partner and how to tap into your partner’s emotional resonance frequency.